Friday, January 21, 2011

Project 365~Jan 21

Go this way...no this way...Sandhill Cranes again.  Do you think this is a married couple?  I know that I often feel this way as half of a married couple.  More often than I'd like to admit, we are each trying to go our own way and do our own thing.

I work with a woman that has been married 53 years and has told me more than once that they both give and take.  They both try to help the other get what they need.

It has had impact on me that she has reminded me of this simple marital truth.  Even with all we've faced lately, we've tried to keep that truth in mind.  We've tried not to turn on each other in the midst of our pain and anger.  And we've done pretty darn well at it, if I can be so bold as to brag on us.  I'm glad because otherwise I'd be feeling like a total schmuck now that things are looking up.  Instead I'm able to high five Nathan and feel at peace with how I navigated that storm with him.

But we both know that doesn't mean tomorrow we might be at odds over the smallest, dumbest thing again.  I might be going this way and he might be wanting to go that way (and not simply following me!).  We'll figure it out though.  We'll keep at it until we do.  Because we want to make it to 53 years and counting too.

2 comments:

Sallie (FullTime-Life) said...

You've got the right attitude and you're on the way!

Love the sandhills (as you already know)!

laurie l. goodman said...

this honest, raw writing, is what i liked about you from the start!
thanx for sharing!
Trust Trust Trust!
thinking of you both!
we all go through this i'm sure at one point or another...you guys rock! ride the waves!