We had our Thanksgiving dinner together today, which was a real treat to us since we don't always have lots of family around during the holidays. We spent some time the day before working on decorations:
Nathan and his Mom made the entire dinner, while everyone else just hung out.
It was really a lovely time. Just hanging out and chatting and having a nice time together. At some point though, it became not so fun. I was reminded of a movie that we watched one time where the adult "children" go home for the holidays and some people end up wrestling on the lawn and the Mom or someone turns the hose on them.
I will leave the details between those of us who were involved, but it was full of the kind of drama that I (and probably everyone else) do not enjoy. It was full of the kind of raw emotion that is oh so human and oh so draining. The interesting part is, it is the kind of drama that is very typical of my family but not typical in the least for Nathan's family. Has me wondering if my family will end up having the nice, calm version of the holidays this year. And I'm not saying that to poke fun at either side of the family. I'm sharing that because the older I get, the more I see that people, life, things in general just seem to go through cycles. It's just life. It helps to put things in perspective some when I remember that.
In the meantime, I'm going to try very hard to remember these parts and be grateful for them:
Because I've also noticed the older I get, that remembering the bad stuff takes no effort. Remembering there is good amidst the bad does take some effort. So I'm working on finding that balance today, and hoping the others involved will too. The issues underneath the drama will most likely take a long time to resolve. So I'm guessing that balance will need to be sought after in an ongoing way. It's the kind of stuff that can knit families even closer together, and I sincerely hope that is the end result here. This isn't the first of the difficult issue to deal with as a family and I doubt it will be the last. Again, it's life.
In the meantime, my friend Eileen will know exactly what I mean when I say a line from the movie Postcards From the Edge, "It TWIRLED". Ah....indeed it did!
Still oh so thankful for my family and so thankful for being able to share the holidays with them. Living the life in Virginia!